Intimate Relationships and Communication

Allen Cates - Health 100

Sep 8th 2008

Once gone never come back

• Time
• Words
• Opurintys

Things that can't go away

• Hope
• Peace
• Honesty

Most valuable

• Love
• Self Confidence

Never certain

• Success
• Forturane
• Dreams

Most valuable

• Generosity
• Humor
• Forgiveness

What makes you a good person

• Loyalty
• Hard work

Things that can destroy you

• Greed
• Pride
• Anger
• Drugs

Vitamin C

C words that are helpful in a relationship

• Chemistry
• Companionship
• Cleansing
• Communication
• Commitment
• Compassionate
• Cherish
• Creativity
• Conflict resolution
• Connectedness
• Cuddling
• Concerned
• Charisma
• Cash
• Compatibility
• Consistent
• Credible
• Charming
• Comedian
• Character
• Caring

Developing Intimate Relationships

• Be willing to give of themselves
• Share their ideas, feelings, time and needs
• Self-Concept and Self-Esteem
• Feel good about ourselves
• Roots of our identity and self
• developed during childhood
• Relationships with parents and other family members
• Gender roles
• Style of attachment
• Formulation of friendships

Characteristics of friendships

• Companionship
• Respect
• Acceptance
• Help
• etc...

Love, Sex, and Intimacy

• Most basic and profound human emotions
• Encompasses opposites
• Affection and anger
• Excitement and boredom
• Stability and change
• Bonds and freedom

The love triangle

• Commitment
• Intimacy
• Passion

Pleasures and pain of love

• Intense love has confused and tormented lovers though-out history
• Passionate love
• Recognize

Challenges in relationships

• Honesty and openness
• Unequal or premature commitment
• Unrealistic Expectiations
• Expecting your partner change
• Assuming
• Unsupported beliefs
• Competitiveness
• Balance of Time together and apart
• Jealousy
• Is not an element of love

Ending a Relationship

• Reasons why?
• Guidelines of a breakup
• Fair chance
• Be fair and honest

Communicationss

• Nonverbal
• Ability to interpret nonverbal messages
• Communication skills
• Self0disclosure
• Listening
• Feedback is a constructive response
• Gender differnces in communication

Conflict and Conflict Resolution

• Conflict resolution skills are vital for maintaining relationships
1. Clarify the issue
2. Find out what each person wants
3. Identify various alternatives
4. Decide hot to negotiate
5. Solidify the agreements
6. Review and renegotiate

Same-Sex Partnership

• Gay and Lesbian
• Sexual orientation
• Homosexual relationships

Marriage

• Benefits of marriage
• Issues of marriage
• Realistic expectations
• Feels good about the personality of their mate
• Communication
• Conflict resolution

Separation and Divorce

• High rates.. Why?
• 50-55% chance of divorcing
• Process of divorce

Family Life

• Becoming a parent
• Preparation for parenthood
• Own stability
• Physical health
• Teenage parenting
• Over the age of 35

Parenting

• Authoritarian
• Authoritative
• Permissive
• Uninvolved